fix: drop relay.damus.io from default relay lists ahead of shutdown

relay.damus.io is being decommissioned, so remove it from every runtime
default/fallback relay set to stop the app and amy from wasting connection
slots on a dead host:

- commons Constants: remove `damus`; it dropped out of `bootstrapInbox`
  (default NIP-65 inbox) and `eventFinderRelays` (default outbox/fallback),
  both still carrying 6 healthy relays.
- ChessConfig: remove damus from CHESS_RELAYS / CHESS_RELAY_NAMES, leaving
  the 3 relays the FETCH_TIMEOUT comment already assumes.
- desktop DefaultRelays: remove damus and the also-dead relay.snort.social.
- desktop FollowPacks DISCOVERY_RELAYS: remove damus.
- amy NipCommand SEARCH_RELAYS: swap damus for the NIP-50-capable nostr.wine.

Comments, @Preview sample data, and test fixtures that mention damus.io are
left untouched — they have no runtime effect.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.8 <noreply@anthropic.com>
Claude-Session: https://claude.ai/code/session_011Ttcqa3V78bugGraGhtehj

cli/src/main/kotlin/com/vitorpamplona/amethyst/cli/commands/NipCommand.kt

@@ -56,7 +56,7 @@ object NipCommand {
 
     // NIP-50-capable relays for the Nostr fallback (search isn't universal).
     private val SEARCH_RELAYS =
-        listOf("wss://relay.nostr.band", "wss://relay.damus.io")
+        listOf("wss://relay.nostr.band", "wss://nostr.wine")
             .mapNotNull { RelayUrlNormalizer.normalizeOrNull(it) }
             .toSet()
 

commons/src/commonMain/kotlin/com/vitorpamplona/amethyst/commons/defaults/Constants.kt

@@ -31,7 +31,6 @@ object Constants {
     val nos = RelayUrlNormalizer.normalize("wss://nos.lol")
     val mom = RelayUrlNormalizer.normalize("wss://nostr.mom")
     val primal = RelayUrlNormalizer.normalize("wss://relay.primal.net")
-    val damus = RelayUrlNormalizer.normalize("wss://relay.damus.io")
     val wine = RelayUrlNormalizer.normalize("wss://nostr.wine")
 
     val where = RelayUrlNormalizer.normalize("wss://relay.noswhere.com")
@@ -55,6 +54,6 @@ object Constants {
     val yabu = RelayUrlNormalizer.normalize("wss://directory.yabu.me")
     val nostr1 = RelayUrlNormalizer.normalize("wss://profiles.nostr1.com")
 
-    val bootstrapInbox = setOf(damus, primal, mom, nos, bitcoiner, oxtr, yabu)
-    val eventFinderRelays = setOf(wine, damus, primal, mom, nos, bitcoiner, oxtr)
+    val bootstrapInbox = setOf(primal, mom, nos, bitcoiner, oxtr, yabu)
+    val eventFinderRelays = setOf(wine, primal, mom, nos, bitcoiner, oxtr)
 }

commons/src/commonMain/kotlin/com/vitorpamplona/amethyst/commons/nip64Chess/ChessConfig.kt

@@ -31,12 +31,11 @@ import com.vitorpamplona.quartz.nip01Core.relay.normalizer.normalizeRelayUrl
 object ChessConfig {
     /**
      * Relays for chess events.
-     * Includes relays used by jester.nyo.dev (relay.damus.io, offchain.pub)
+     * Includes relays used by jester.nyo.dev (offchain.pub)
      * and popular community relays for broader reach.
      */
     val CHESS_RELAYS =
         listOf(
-            "wss://relay.damus.io",
             "wss://nos.lol",
             "wss://relay.primal.net",
             "wss://offchain.pub",
@@ -47,7 +46,6 @@ object ChessConfig {
      */
     val CHESS_RELAY_NAMES =
         listOf(
-            "relay.damus.io".normalizeRelayUrl(),
             "nos.lol".normalizeRelayUrl(),
             "relay.primal.net".normalizeRelayUrl(),
             "offchain.pub".normalizeRelayUrl(),

desktopApp/src/jvmMain/kotlin/com/vitorpamplona/amethyst/desktop/followpacks/FollowPacksState.kt

@@ -75,7 +75,6 @@ class FollowPacksState(
         // it uses these popular relays. Verified empirically.
         val DISCOVERY_RELAYS: Set<NormalizedRelayUrl> =
             listOfNotNull(
-                RelayUrlNormalizer.normalizeOrNull("wss://relay.damus.io"),
                 RelayUrlNormalizer.normalizeOrNull("wss://relay.nostr.band"),
                 RelayUrlNormalizer.normalizeOrNull("wss://relay.primal.net"),
                 RelayUrlNormalizer.normalizeOrNull("wss://nos.lol"),

desktopApp/src/jvmMain/kotlin/com/vitorpamplona/amethyst/desktop/network/RelayStatus.kt

@@ -40,10 +40,8 @@ data class RelayStatus(
 object DefaultRelays {
     val RELAYS =
         listOf(
-            "wss://relay.damus.io",
             "wss://relay.nostr.band",
             "wss://nos.lol",
-            "wss://relay.snort.social",
             "wss://nostr.wine",
             "wss://relay.noswhere.com",
             "wss://relay.primal.net",