Fix promote_connection() to detect and clean up pending outbound
handshakes to the same peer, not just already-promoted peers. Previously,
when an inbound handshake completed while an outbound was still pending,
the outbound would linger until the 30s timeout.
Add auto-retry for failed outbound connections to auto-connect peers:
- New RetryState struct and node/retry.rs module
- Exponential backoff (default 5s base, max 5 attempts)
- Config: node.max_retries, node.base_retry_interval_secs
- check_timeouts() schedules retries, rx loop processes them
- promote_connection() clears retry state on success
- Remove unused PeerConnection retry fields (state now at Node level)
Move cleanup_stale_connection() logging to callers for context-appropriate
messages.
289 tests pass, clean build.