Pin discovery state machine: open-discovery sweep + per-attempt lookup timeout

Cover two adjacent runtime behaviors in the discovery state machine
that were previously unpinned at the test level.

1. Open-discovery startup sweep iterate-filter-queue contract.

Cover the runtime sweep behavior: iterate advert cache, apply
skip-filters (own-pubkey, already-connected peers), queue eligible
entries to retry_pending. The config layer was tested but the sweep's
own filtering logic was unpinned.

src/discovery/nostr/runtime.rs: add #[cfg(test)] impl block with
three pub(crate) helpers — new_for_test() builds a minimal
NostrDiscovery with empty cache and no relays/background tasks (uses
fresh nostr::Keys signer + Client::builder().autoconnect(false));
cached_advert_for_test() wraps an OverlayEndpointAdvert into a
CachedOverlayAdvert valid for 1h; insert_advert_for_test() writes
direct to the advert_cache RwLock. All three vanish from release
builds via cfg-gating.

src/node/lifecycle.rs: visibility-only widen on
run_open_discovery_sweep from private async fn to
pub(in crate::node) async fn so the in-tree test can drive it
directly. Same pattern as already-pub(in crate::node) handlers in
src/node/handlers/.

src/node/tests/discovery.rs: add #[tokio::test]
test_open_discovery_sweep_queues_eligible_skips_filtered. Builds
Node + Arc<NostrDiscovery>, injects 3 adverts (eligible, already-
connected peer, own-pubkey), invokes the sweep, asserts retry_pending
contains exactly the eligible entry with matching peer_config npub
and the two filtered entries do NOT appear.

2. Per-attempt timeout state machine in check_pending_lookups.

Cover the central new behavior of f16b837: the [1, 2, 4, 8] retry
sequence (cumulative deadlines 1100/3100/7100/15100ms), one fresh
LookupRequest per attempt, and final-timeout reaching the unreachable
state. The opt-in DiscoveryBackoff machinery was well-tested but inert
at default config; this pins the state machine that runs by default.

Add test_check_pending_lookups_default_sequence_unreachable to
src/node/tests/discovery.rs. Constructs a Node with a peer that has
the target in its bloom but cannot respond (no Noise session — the
state-machine bookkeeping is independent of wire-send success).
Drives check_pending_lookups deterministically through:

  t=1100   → second attempt; entry.attempt advances; req_initiated++
  t=3100   → third attempt; entry.attempt advances; req_initiated++
  t=7100   → fourth attempt; entry.attempt advances; req_initiated++
  t=15099  → no-op (one ms before final deadline)
  t=15100  → final timeout

At t=15100 asserts: pending_lookups[target] removed; resp_timed_out
counter +1 (this is the actual counter name); pending_tun_packets
[target] removed (queued packet dropped); a frame on the TUN sender
with IPv6 + next_header=58 + ICMPv6 type=1 (Destination Unreachable).

Fresh-request_id-per-attempt is structurally guaranteed: LookupRequest
::generate() unconditionally calls rand::random::<u64>(), and the
test asserts req_initiated increments by exactly 1 per retry (proving
initiate_lookup runs fresh each time, not a resend of cached state).
The originator's request_id isn't stored on the originator side
(deliberately omitted from recent_requests so the response is
recognized as "ours"), so direct request_id capture is not feasible
and counter-tick is the load-bearing observable.

No production logic touched; no visibility widening needed
(check_pending_lookups was already pub(in crate::node)).

src/node/lifecycle.rs

@@ -1164,7 +1164,7 @@ impl Node {
     ///
     /// `caller` is a short label included in log lines so per-tick and
     /// startup sweeps are distinguishable in operator-facing logs.
-    async fn run_open_discovery_sweep(
+    pub(in crate::node) async fn run_open_discovery_sweep(
         &mut self,
         bootstrap: &std::sync::Arc<NostrDiscovery>,
         max_age_secs: Option<u64>,