Set UDP socket buffer sizes to prevent receive overflow

Under high-throughput forwarding, the kernel default 212KB receive
buffer overflows, silently dropping ~11% of UDP datagrams at transit
nodes. Add configurable recv_buf_size and send_buf_size to UdpConfig
(default 2MB each) using socket2 for pre-bind buffer configuration.
Startup log now reports actual buffer sizes granted by the kernel.

Requires net.core.rmem_max >= 2097152 on the host for the full 2MB
to take effect; otherwise the kernel silently clamps.

Cargo.lock

@@ -546,6 +546,7 @@ dependencies = [
  "serde_yaml",
  "sha2",
  "simple-dns",
+ "socket2 0.5.10",
  "tempfile",
  "thiserror 2.0.18",
  "tokio",
@@ -1402,6 +1403,16 @@ version = "1.15.1"
 source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
 checksum = "67b1b7a3b5fe4f1376887184045fcf45c69e92af734b7aaddc05fb777b6fbd03"
 
+[[package]]
+name = "socket2"
+version = "0.5.10"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "e22376abed350d73dd1cd119b57ffccad95b4e585a7cda43e286245ce23c0678"
+dependencies = [
+ "libc",
+ "windows-sys 0.52.0",
+]
+
 [[package]]
 name = "socket2"
 version = "0.6.2"
@@ -1518,7 +1529,7 @@ dependencies = [
  "mio",
  "pin-project-lite",
  "signal-hook-registry",
- "socket2",
+ "socket2 0.6.2",
  "tokio-macros",
  "windows-sys 0.61.2",
 ]
@@ -1770,6 +1781,15 @@ version = "0.2.1"
 source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
 checksum = "f0805222e57f7521d6a62e36fa9163bc891acd422f971defe97d64e70d0a4fe5"
 
+[[package]]
+name = "windows-sys"
+version = "0.52.0"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "282be5f36a8ce781fad8c8ae18fa3f9beff57ec1b52cb3de0789201425d9a33d"
+dependencies = [
+ "windows-targets 0.52.6",
+]
+
 [[package]]
 name = "windows-sys"
 version = "0.59.0"