docs: refresh tutorials, how-to, design, reference, and examples for v0.4.0

Pre-cut documentation pass for the 0.4.0 release, verified against current source.

Corrections:
- fipsctl: stale 'show identities'/'show node' -> 'show status'
  (host-a-service, run-as-unprivileged-user)
- mesh address derivation: first 16 bytes of SHA-256(pubkey) with the leading
  byte set to 0xfd, not a fixed fd97: prefix (reach-mesh-services,
  ipv6-adapter-walkthrough)
- gateway control socket mode 0660 -> 0770 (troubleshoot-gateway)
- Tor example: add advertised_port: 8443 so the published port matches the
  prose (enable-nostr-discovery)
- bloom mesh-size estimate rewritten to the OR-union-of-peer-filters algorithm;
  plus mtu deep-link, gateway pool wording, and a NAT failure-mode line
- examples: delete orphaned nostr-rs-relay config, accept inbound to the local
  8443 TCP listener, fix fd::/8 -> fd00::/8 typos, dotless wireguard alias

Additions:
- new Nym mixnet transport section (fips-transport-layer) and the architecture
  transport list
- new LAN/mDNS discovery section (fips-nostr-discovery)
- reference docs: Nym transport, LAN discovery, and new control/stats surfaces;
  drop ble from the connect transport list

docs/reference/control-socket.md

@@ -115,6 +115,7 @@ table below lists every command currently registered.
 | `show_identity_cache` | — | `entries[]`, `count`, `max_entries`. Each entry: `node_addr`, `npub`, `display_name`, `ipv6_addr`, `last_seen_ms`, `age_ms`. |
 | `show_listening_sockets` | — | `fips0_addr`, `firewall_active` (bool — `inet fips` table loaded), `sockets[]`. Each entry: `proto` (`tcp` / `udp`), `local_addr` (`::` or the node's fd00::/8 address), `port`, `pid` (nullable), `process` (nullable), `wildcard_bind` (bool — `local_addr == ::`), `filter` (`accept` / `drop` / `unknown` / `no_firewall`). Linux-only; returns an empty `sockets[]` on other platforms. |
 | `show_stats_list` | — | `metrics[]` (each with `name`, `unit`, `scope`), `fast_ring_seconds`, `slow_ring_minutes`, `peer_retention_seconds`. |
+| `show_metrics` | — | Flat snapshot of every counter family in the metrics registry: `forwarding`, `discovery`, `tree`, `bloom`, `congestion`, `errors`. Each value is that family's counter snapshot object. Counter-only — gauges/histograms that need the live node are excluded. Served off the main loop. |
 | `show_stats_history` | `metric` (req), `peer` (req for per-peer metrics), `window` (`<N>s` / `<N>m` / `<N>h`, default `10m`), `granularity` (`1s` / `1m`, default `1s`) | A single `Series`: `metric`, `unit`, `granularity_seconds`, `values[]`. |
 | `show_stats_all_history` | `peer` (optional npub), `window`, `granularity` | `granularity_seconds`, `window_seconds`, `peer`, `series[]` (one per metric). |
 | `show_stats_peers` | — | `peers[]`, `count`. Each entry: `npub`, `node_addr`, `display_name`, `is_active`, `first_seen_secs_ago`, `last_contact_secs_ago`. |
@@ -128,7 +129,7 @@ fixtures.
 
 | Command | Required params | Behaviour |
 | ------- | --------------- | --------- |
-| `connect` | `npub` (bech32), `address` (transport endpoint), `transport` (`udp`, `tcp`, `tor`, `ethernet`) | Asks the node to dial the peer over the named transport. Returns the API result on success or an error string on failure. |
+| `connect` | `npub` (bech32), `address` (transport endpoint), `transport` (`udp`, `tcp`, `tor`, `nym`, `ethernet`) | Asks the node to dial the peer over the named transport. The named transport must be configured and running. Returns the API result on success or an error string on failure. |
 | `disconnect` | `npub` (bech32) | Asks the node to drop the link to the named peer. |
 
 Both commands run on the daemon's main task and may block briefly