node: introduce Reloadable trait and migrate host map to a lock-free snapshot

Add a `Reloadable` trait that normalizes the node's reloadable
configuration/resource pattern onto a single contract built around an
`arc_swap::ArcSwap` snapshot: a lock-free `load()` for the hot read path
and an async `reload()` that re-reads the backing source and atomically
swaps in a fresh snapshot. The trait carries the canonical Arc-wrapper
template documentation (single-writer node tick, many-reader hot path,
whole-snapshot swap so readers never observe a partial update).

Migrate the host map to this trait via a new `HostMapReloadable` that
reuses the existing load/merge/mtime helpers in upper::hosts. The Node
`host_map` field changes from `Arc<HostMap>` to `HostMapReloadable`, and
`peer_display_name` reads through a lock-free guard. The initial snapshot
is byte-identical to the previous construction, so behavior is unchanged.

The host map is still snapshotted once at construction and not polled;
`reload()` is exercised only by unit tests for now. Wiring the periodic
poll into the node tick, and deduplicating the hosts-file stat against
the ACL reloader's embedded copy, is left as a follow-up.

Add `arc-swap` as a dependency. Unit tests cover initial load (base +
file, base only), change/no-change/deletion/creation detection,
base-preserved-on-reload, and equivalence of the initial snapshot to the
pre-migration construction.

Cargo.lock

@@ -98,6 +98,15 @@ version = "1.0.102"
 source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
 checksum = "7f202df86484c868dbad7eaa557ef785d5c66295e41b460ef922eca0723b842c"
 
+[[package]]
+name = "arc-swap"
+version = "1.9.1"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "6a3a1fd6f75306b68087b831f025c712524bcb19aad54e557b1129cfa0a2b207"
+dependencies = [
+ "rustversion",
+]
+
 [[package]]
 name = "arrayvec"
 version = "0.7.6"
@@ -1063,6 +1072,7 @@ checksum = "9844ddc3a6e533d62bba727eb6c28b5d360921d5175e9ff0f1e621a5c590a4d5"
 name = "fips"
 version = "0.4.0-dev"
 dependencies = [
+ "arc-swap",
  "bech32",
  "bluer",
  "clap",